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Tuesday, February 14, 2012

The Quiet Room

In the quiet room there is the sound of the oxygen pump and Mark mistakes it for the pattern of Eddy's breathing and worries it is slowing down. We stand around Eddy's bed and pet him, his chest and legs, and his head. Occasionally Mark pets his cheek. At first we don't know what to say and the nurses are there swabbing out his mouth and turning him in the bed and then realizing they need to change his gown that is wet with sweat they ask us to step out and we do. In the common area there is a dog lingering between the water dispenser and an open office and a man comes out and goes in and the dog changes from bored to attentive and then back to bored. People wheel by in wheelchairs wearing socks with grippy pads. Some people sit listening to music, some people just stare. A woman I saw crying at one of the many dining tables one day is today folding clothes, over and over. We go back into the quiet room and continue our petting and stroking and quiet weeping. We talk over Eddy and to Eddy and around Eddy and eventually we put on music and we all sit down and forget about Eddy and then we take turns looking over at him. From where I am sitting I can see his pulse in his neck expanding and contracting against the white white pillow. The lights are low in the quiet room and the decor makes it seem like you are in a cottage at the beach, in Greece. If you were on morphine this would all be believable. You could easily tune out the pumping sound of the oxygen and the sound of the fan and all the sounds coming from the front desk of this vast building filled with other afflicted humans who can no longer care for themselves. You could focus instead on the voices of the people you loved most in this world even if you had no ability to understand what anyone was saying, the pumping sound might register as waves lapping on a distant shore. No one asks questions about how long it will be until we arrive at the place we are all going and the day passes and we come and go from the quiet room, and later in the evening after we have all gone home, Eddy dies. And that is where we are now. This is the day that we knew was coming but we didn't know how and we didn't know when and yet here we are doing exactly what we knew we would need to do.

4 comments:

Dreaming said...

What a wonderful good-bye. What a sad time. What release. What lovely writing. Wonderful images of a cottage in Greece. Hugs to you. May wonderful memories carry you through the tough spots.

Cupcake Murphy said...

Oh my my my goodness. I will never understand how it all unravels the way it does but you've managed to put words on what happens and how quiet it all is--when someone is leaving. I've always thought it should be LOUD and CLANGING. Thank you for being such a beautiful writer and godspeed Eddy. I wish I would have known you. Thanks to Rowan I got the feeling you were a great guy.

stacee said...

All the wonderful words you've written about Eddy over the years made me feel I really knew him. What a lovely tribute this post is to him. Your words are always powerful, but this long string is especially moving. Thinking of you and Mark and the rest of your family, Rowan. xo

Anne W said...

As always, Rowan, very eloquent and fitting. Goodness.. Thinking of you, Mark, and the family.

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